Well,
so our communications started on this tentative note. My
mom was in the USA at the time, and since Aaron knew that,
and also knew that I was probably hesitating to open up
to him because I hadn’t seen him for a long time and was
probably wondering what he’d become, he decided to make
the trip from Dallas to Oklahoma (a 3-hour drive), along
with another Bahá’í friend, to pay my mother a visit. This,
of course, after I’d told my mom about him, that we were
friends and that he was also interested in getting to know
me better.
You
know how mothers are. My mom paid attention. She “looked
him over”, and that first meeting left a positive impression
on her. But Aaron didn’t end there. He learned that I wanted
to send flowers for my mom’s birthday and that I didn’t
know how to do that, so he surprised me by sending her the
most gorgeous roses on my behalf; he continued to visit
her and they became really good friends. Now keep in mind,
my mom is very skeptical of young men who want to have anything
to do with me, and she is not easily taken by them. But
this one, she told me, this one was different. And as you
can be sure, this assurance multiplied his points in my
book!
All
that said, I must say that what intrigued me most about
Aaron, and made me feel that this was a unique and serious
guy, was his approach. He was ready to start a relationship
with someone that he hadn’t met for almost 5 years. I was
in Israel, he was in the United States, we were thousands
of miles apart. He didn’t ask to see pictures of what I
then looked like, or what I’d become…no, he had fallen in
love with the real me, my inner self, a long time ago, and
that’s what was attracting him. We gradually built a strong
relationship, without laying eyes on each other for 16 months!
It was incredible, and I still think that it is the unique
thing about our relationship
Of
course, I soon asked to see pictures of him, because I was
curious (remember my prayers?) And, hey, who am I kidding?
I was happy with what I saw! However, just for the record,
I also naturally made a lot of enquiries about him.
You know
the rest of the story. I finally went to Cameroon, was able
to visit his family, they were wonderful. Then I returned
to Israel, and later left for the U.S. Our relationship
has blossomed since then. We think so alike on many issues:
education, work, service to humanity, all those important
things that give life meaning.
I
truly believe that God answered my prayers. Aaron is a great
guy and I am thankful to God that He inspired Aaron to call
me that morning in March of 2003.
Jacqueline
Ngendab Ambe